Feeling friendless is more common than you think, but it’s an issue with plenty of different causes. Let us help shed a little more light on your case.
It’s understandable if you’ve observed a dearth in the number of people whom you consider as actual friends.
The hard truth is that friendships aren’t something a person is entitled to, and making friends in the first place can be an extremely fickle thing, with common interests and circumstance playing a common role.
For this assessment, we have to look both inward and outward – because we can’t control how other people treat you, but you can find out where you can improve, and maybe learn to treat yourself differently and for the better.
Stuck and troubled about why you don’t have more friends? How can you be better at befriending people? Answer this social life questionnaire to gain some insight!
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The spiel about the world being “more connected than ever before, and people are only becoming lonelier” seems done to death, but it does carry a cogent point.
Is something the matter with people in general that you don’t like? Or could it be an issue with you — and one that can potentially be dealt with?
The answer is likely a combination of both. Getting people to like you can be tricky business, because the onus is ultimately on them. You can’t please everyone… but maybe you can at least sway a few who you deem worthwhile to grow close to?
We here at GoForQuiz like to aim for the hard-hitting questions. They’re the most efficient way to find points for change.
Are you capable of facing yourself in the mirror and asking “why don’t I have any friends?” Can you even bear looking at your reflection at all, or is there an underlying aversion against how you look or act? Can you bear lying to yourself and saying you have plenty of ride-or-dies when you might actually have surrounded yourself with yes men and fair-weather friends?
Whether your results lead you recognize the need to build your social circle or if you still think you’re perfectly fine by your lonesome, we hope this quiz points you toward the direction of self-improvement.
Fake friends—people who will abandon you when you’re no longer useful, people who associate with you only for the good times, and so on—can come in many shapes and sizes, but the usual signs of fake-ness to watch out for are:
- Frequently one-upping or diminishing your own achievements
- Dump their emotions on you but don’t return the favour for you
- Being more concerned about their pride or appearance than your dignity
- Only calling or texting when they need you
- Judging you for something they don’t personally like
- Not considering your time or schedule for hangouts
- Holding grudges and refusing to talk them out with you
If you’ve heard a tidbit about how a person can only maintain stable relationships with about 150 people at a time, that’s Dunbar’s number: a little rule-of-thumb on your social availability.
Anthropologist Robin Dunbar also suggested that you can safely consider around 50 people as close enough to all invite to a dinner, 15 as very close friends, and 5 as your inner circle.
Modern research suggests this number is inaccurate, and that you can form relationships (friendships and bonds; not romances, you utter Casanova) with as many as 520 people.